How Do I Fix My Broken Marriage?
When a marriage feels broken, one of the most important steps is recognizing that no amount of willpower alone can restore what only God can redeem. That’s why healing begins not with fixing—but with surrender. James 5:16 reminds us that “the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective,” and Philippians 4:6–7 calls us to release our anxiety and instead present every need before God.
“the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective,” - James 5:16
Start with Surrender
Prayer is not a last resort—it is the foundation of change. Through consistent, honest prayer, hearts are softened, perspectives shift, and the Holy Spirit begins a work that no counselor or book could replicate. But surrender is more than prayer—it’s also about forgiveness. When wounds run deep, forgiveness may feel impossible. Yet Matthew 18:21–22 tells us to forgive “seventy-seven times,” underscoring that forgiveness is not a feeling—it’s a decision to trust God with our pain. Ephesians 4:32 exhorts us to be “kind and compassionate… forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” This kind of forgiveness is costly, but it clears the rubble that stands in the way of reconciliation. Whether it’s releasing a spouse from past offenses or asking for forgiveness ourselves, this step cannot be skipped. It’s here, in the sacred place of surrender and forgiveness, that the foundation for restoration is poured.
“the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective,” - James 5:16
Repentance, Love, and Patience
Once the groundwork of prayer and forgiveness is laid, the real rebuilding begins—and it must be done on God’s terms, not ours. That starts with repentance. Psalm 51 offers a raw, vulnerable picture of what true repentance looks like: a heart fully aware of its brokenness and need for mercy. Acts 3:19 calls us to “repent and turn to God, so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord.” In the context of marriage, this means both spouses must be willing to look inward, confess where they’ve fallen short, and seek not just reconciliation with each other—but with God. There is no room for blame-shifting or defensiveness. Repentance is the soil in which grace can take root. But repentance must be matched by mutual submission and sacrificial love. Ephesians 5:21-33 paints a countercultural picture of marriage where both husband and wife surrender their rights for the sake of the other. Husbands are called to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, wholly, relentlessly. Wives are called to respect and honor their husbands. This isn’t about domination; it’s about humility, teamwork, and placing Christ at the center of the relationship. Restoration will also require something we’re not always eager to offer: patience. Galatians 6:9 tells us not to grow weary in doing good, “for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Trust must be rebuilt, emotional wounds must be addressed, and spiritual growth takes time. But if both partners are willing to persevere with open hearts and willing hands, the marriage can not only be restored—it can be transformed.
“for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” - Galatians 6:9
Anchor in God’s Grace
Ultimately, no matter how broken your marriage may seem, restoration is never out of reach for a God who brings life from ashes. Matthew 19:26 declares that “with God all things are possible,” and 2 Corinthians 1:9 reminds us that we rely not on ourselves, but “on God, who raises the dead.” If God can conquer death, He can certainly breathe life into a weary, wounded marriage. That’s why it’s essential to stay grounded in God’s Word. Scriptures like 1 Corinthians 13:7, Romans 12:12, and 1 Peter 5:10 remind us of the enduring qualities of love, the necessity of hope, and the promise that God will restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish us after we suffer for a little while. But don’t try to do this alone. Proverbs 15:22 says, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” Surround yourself with godly mentors, pastors, and faith-based counselors who will not just cheer you on, but walk beside you. That’s exactly why Covenant Marriage Counseling exists—to provide biblical wisdom, grace-filled accountability, and personalized support for couples ready to rebuild. Whether you're navigating betrayal, bitterness, or simply emotional distance, our approach is grounded in Scripture and the belief that God is still in the business of restoration. Don’t settle for surviving—let’s pursue healing. Let love be lived out daily, as Ephesians 4:2–3 instructs: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.” And above all, trust that God’s grace is not only sufficient—it is perfect in weakness. Your story isn’t over. With faith, action, and support, your marriage can become stronger than it ever was.
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” - Proverbs 15:22
If your marriage feels broken and you’re searching for hope, don’t wait another day to take the first step toward healing. Covenant Marriage Counseling offers Christ-centered guidance rooted in biblical truth, compassion, and proven principles of restoration. Whether you’re dealing with deep wounds, emotional distance, or simply feel stuck, we’re here to walk with you—prayerfully, patiently, and faithfully. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone. Reach out today and begin rebuilding your marriage on the unshakable foundation of God’s Word. Let’s restore what the enemy tried to destroy—together.
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